{"id":344945,"date":"2024-02-22T09:00:00","date_gmt":"2024-02-22T09:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/ora-visio.com\/how-can-children-with-dys-disorders-regain-self-confidence\/"},"modified":"2024-02-22T09:00:00","modified_gmt":"2024-02-22T09:00:00","slug":"how-can-children-with-dys-disorders-regain-self-confidence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/ora-visio.com\/en\/how-can-children-with-dys-disorders-regain-self-confidence\/","title":{"rendered":"How Can Children With DYS Disorders Regain Self-Confidence?"},"content":{"rendered":"

Whatever the nature of their difficulty (written language, maths, motor skills\u2026), children with DYS disorders (dyslexia, dyscalculia, dyspraxia\u2026) are faced with repeated experiences of failure<\/a> that gradually erode their self-confidence<\/strong>. Beyond the essential educational adjustments and remediation sessions, it’s important to rebuild that confidence, to set it on a (finally) positive spiral.<\/p>\n

Tip 1: be mindful of the impact of the words you use<\/h2>\n

At school as in everyday life, parents and teachers don’t always realise the impact of the words they use with a child with DYS. To begin with, absolute terms<\/strong> like “never<\/em>” or “always<\/em>” should be avoided, so as not to call the child into question as a whole, but only in relation to a specific behaviour. Along the same lines, expressions such as “you’re mean”<\/em> or “you’re stupid”<\/em><\/strong> also leave their mark and undermine the confidence of children with DYS.<\/p>\n

The idea is to weave in some “we”<\/strong> in what you say, to show them you’re there to support them through difficult situations. Together, by looking for a solution to the problem<\/strong>, you show that you trust them and that they can improve. In psychology, “having self-confidence means, above all, knowing yourself, believing in your potential and your abilities.”<\/em><\/p>\n

Tip 2: celebrate successes<\/h2>\n

Whether dyslexic, dyscalculic, dyspraxic or dysphasic, a child with DYS has a brain that works differently<\/a> from others. This means putting in sustained effort<\/strong> and developing coping strategies<\/strong> in order to “fit the mould”. It is absolutely essential to celebrate every success<\/strong>, even if it seems ordinary for someone else.<\/p>\n

Here again, choosing the right words to praise them matters<\/strong>: “I’m happy you managed that, I’m very proud of you”<\/em> is the right way to build their confidence. Unfortunately, this is all too often followed by clumsy words<\/strong>, such as “it wasn’t that hard”<\/em> or “see, when you want to, you can do it”<\/em>. Unnecessary, these additions cancel out the compliment<\/strong> and imply that the child with DYS did badly the other times\u2026<\/p>\n

Tip 3: avoid punishment<\/h2>\n

For a child with DYS, punishment is a counterproductive approach<\/strong> and harms their self-confidence. It’s better to reward them rather than deprive them of something. In practice, it’s enough to adapt how you phrase things<\/strong> to get the same result, without the harmful effects of a restrictive, belittling approach. For example, “if you do your homework right away, we can play together afterwards or watch TV”<\/em>, rather than “if you don’t do your homework now, you’ll be banned from TV or games tonight”<\/em>.<\/p>\n

Don’t hesitate to reach out to the the <\/strong>psychologists on the Ora-Visio platform<\/strong><\/a>,<\/strong> to support your efforts and strengthen your child’s confidence in themselves. This will help them face their school and\/or everyday difficulties.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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